tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post2666332856844043903..comments2024-01-05T05:46:30.140-08:00Comments on Angie's Desk: This Is How it HappensAngiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-9050364493448305492012-03-21T01:42:31.344-07:002012-03-21T01:42:31.344-07:00Anon -- lesbian romance is cool; I've read a f...Anon -- lesbian romance is cool; I've read a few that I've enjoyed. I don't go looking for them, though, because I'm not really wired to enjoy the sex. I'm pretty straight and like at least one guy involved in my sex scenes; two is even better. :)<br /><br />You're right about some of the stories rocking, though. [nod]<br /><br />AngieAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-81062014007556315432012-03-21T01:32:57.242-07:002012-03-21T01:32:57.242-07:00You are writing about gay romance......think about...You are writing about gay romance......think about lesbian romance.....it rocks....okayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-27166500492221857492010-10-20T22:42:41.425-07:002010-10-20T22:42:41.425-07:00Kara -- that's... yeah. I'd never thought...Kara -- that's... yeah. I'd never thought before about that particular implication of how East Asian women are taught to behave. :/<br /><br />Looking back, I think one of the most important messages that can be given to young women is that anyone who thinks you're a "bitch" for snapping at some guy who's harassing you is an idiot, and it doesn't matter what idiots think. When you're young it seems so important that people like you, that guys like you, it's hard to form the idea on your own that you wouldn't <i>want</i> a guy who'd act this way, or think badly of you for defending yourself. [sigh]<br /><br />AngieAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-15324822790741304852010-10-20T19:29:07.321-07:002010-10-20T19:29:07.321-07:00Yes -- this article completely spoke to me. I can...Yes -- this article completely spoke to me. I can also attest that the East Asian culture I grew up in explicitly told me to be meek and quiet and obedient to people even only a year older than I was. I can only imagine how that gets taken advantage of.<br /><br />I don't even know if there's an area between "willing" and "bitch" that most men can perceive. I am learning to wholeheartedly embrace the "bitch" label if that's what it takes to free myself from unwanted attention and potential danger.Karalynnhttp://karalynnlee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-44699787345859892742010-10-20T15:03:28.788-07:002010-10-20T15:03:28.788-07:00Suzan -- and of course you were the one in the wro...Suzan -- and of course you were the one in the wrong for being rude, rather than Mr. Dick for being an obnoxious jerk. [sigh]<br /><br />AngieAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-39029208885076233372010-10-20T14:59:32.869-07:002010-10-20T14:59:32.869-07:00Been there with you, girl. I was on the subway in...Been there with you, girl. I was on the subway in D.C. on my way home from work one night. This dick was hitting on each woman in our car. None of the men did a thing. I was quite forceful in my "No," and everyone in the car gave me this look like I'd farted the alphabet. But the dick left the rest of the women alone.<br /><br />In a way, I'm glad I don't have any daughters because I don't have to deal with the repercussions of society telling them the opposite of what I would tell them.Suzan Hardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600258874634909988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-38260979354969692512010-10-20T13:21:37.041-07:002010-10-20T13:21:37.041-07:00Charles -- that's exactly it, that guys hardly...Charles -- that's exactly it, that guys hardly ever find themselves in positions where defending yourself even verbally, even in a polite-but-firm way, draws intense social censure, but doing the polite thing and going along and <i>not</i> defending yourself can lead to rape. Guys do get raped, but the circumstances are different; it's more likely to be a matter of outright violence, from what I've read. Guys are allowed to be firm in social interactions, to draw boundaries and defend them verbally, and physically if necessary, without drawing criticism. Defending your boundaries is the masculine thing to do.<br /><br />It's the women who are expected to be polite and not ever hurt anyone else's feelings up until that very last second, and at that point they're criticized for waiting that long. :P It's the women who find themselves branded the wrong-doer whether they spoke up for themselves or whether they didn't. [sigh]<br /><br />Natasha -- exactly, it's always the woman to blame, unless it's actually a case of a violent stranger in a dark alley, but that's only a scant few percent of rape cases. And heck, even then it's the woman's fault for being in a situation where the stranger had a shot at her. :P<br /><br />AngieAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-12333299119096145422010-10-20T11:23:59.244-07:002010-10-20T11:23:59.244-07:00Yes, exactly. Great post. And yes, it's always...Yes, exactly. Great post. And yes, it's always the woman's fault. No wonder we don't speak up half the time.Spy Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14299551957327543491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1847902007209931042.post-71028076706775212962010-10-20T06:29:30.045-07:002010-10-20T06:29:30.045-07:00I was taught to be polite, and always tried to be,...I was taught to be polite, and always tried to be, but I guess men don't get near the same kind of attention women get so we don't end up in those situations. It's unfortunate that politeness can be seen as weakness.Charles Gramlichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02052592247572253641noreply@blogger.com